BEHAVIOURAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS IN THE CASE OF ALZHEIMER’S DISEASE: SUSPICIOUSNESS
Thursday, April 2nd, 2009Some people with dementia are very unpleasant to those around them. They may accuse a spouse of trying to harm them, of stealing their belongings, of plotting against them, and so on. This type of behaviour is really very upsetting and often causes deep hurt. There is little one can do about it, as no amount of reasoning will make any long-term difference. In the short term, however, reassurance can sometimes be helpful, as the outburst may really be a means of saying ‘I don’t feel loved’ or ‘I am angry because I am frightened.’ If this kind of emotional insecurity is responsible, loving reassurance and a hug may well be the answer, but don’t feel rejected if this doesn’t work. There must be many other reasons for a reaction of this nature and the underlying cause is often not apparent.
Very often all that one can do is to try to ignore such comments and remember that they are not really the expression of a considered thought, but the results of brain damage. The sufferer is probably as upset and distressed about the situation as the person to whom the remarks are directed.
Above all, don’t try to react by justifying yourself or arguing. This could well result in a catastrophic reaction. If the situation has arisen because the sufferer has forgotten who a person is, even though they should know him quite well, and mistakes him for a stranger who, for instance, could be a thief, try to explain to the person or persons involved and at the same time reassure the sufferer.
If things get lost, it is very likely that they have either been put down in a strange place or that they have been deliberately hidden. You will soon learn about the favourite hiding-places. This will help you to recover things quickly when the sufferer begins to complain that they have disappeared and has forgotten that he or she has hidden them. If a lockable drawer or cupboard is the hiding-place have duplicate keys made or remove the existing key in case objects are locked away and the key in turn is hidden elsewhere or lost. It is also a good idea to keep objects such as jewellery, cash, legal documents, and so on, safely away from a demented person in case they too disappear.
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